Ibisobanuro by'amagambo Umurongo 34 Isura Annisau - Ibisobanuro bya Qur'an Ntagatifu mu rurimi rw'icyongereza - Abdallah Hassan Ya'aqub - ububiko bwa qor'an yejejwe

Umurongo: 34

ٱلرِّجَالُ قَوَّٰمُونَ عَلَى ٱلنِّسَآءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ ٱللَّهُ بَعۡضَهُمۡ عَلَىٰ بَعۡضٖ وَبِمَآ أَنفَقُواْ مِنۡ أَمۡوَٰلِهِمۡۚ فَٱلصَّٰلِحَٰتُ قَٰنِتَٰتٌ حَٰفِظَٰتٞ لِّلۡغَيۡبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ ٱللَّهُۚ وَٱلَّٰتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَٱهۡجُرُوهُنَّ فِي ٱلۡمَضَاجِعِ وَٱضۡرِبُوهُنَّۖ فَإِنۡ أَطَعۡنَكُمۡ فَلَا تَبۡغُواْ عَلَيۡهِنَّ سَبِيلًاۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيّٗا كَبِيرٗا

34. (Wives, love and submit to your husbands, for) men are in charge of women by (right) of what Allāh has given one over the other, and with what they (men) spend out of their wealth. The righteous wives are devoutly dutiful, guarding in (their husband’s) absence what Allāh would have them guard16. But those (wives) on whose part you fear desertion, (first) advice them (if they persist) forsake them in bed, and (should they persist) discipline them (by hitting them lightly and gently)17; if they then obey you, do not seek a way against them. Indeed, Allāh is Most High, Most Great.

16. I.e., their chastity and their husband’s wealth and properties.
17. Muhammad, God's Messenger, said, "Do not beat Allah's bondwomen.'' One of the companions (May Allah be pleased with him) came to him complaining: "The women have become very daring towards their husbands,'' He (the Prophet) gave permission to beat them 'if necessary and useful but lightly and gently out of love.' Then many women went to the family of the Messenger of Allah (wives) complaining of their husbands, and he (the Prophet) said, "Many women have gone round Muhammad's family complaining of their husbands. Those who do so, that is, those who take to beating their wives, are not the best among you 'and good examples'." This Hadith 'statement of the Prophet' tells us that those who take to beating their wives are not the best people and good example. The decency of manners warrants that one must refrain from beating, as is evident from the conduct of the Prophet who neither resorted to beating with his own hand any of his wives nor slaves nor any other. He would avenge those who transgressed the limits of Allāh.
Muhammad, God's Messenger, never hit anyone with his hand, nor a woman, nor a servant, except when he was fighting for the Cause of God ”.
The Messenger of God also said, "The most perfect man in his faith among the believers is the one whose behaviour is most excellent; and the best of you are those who are the best to their wives.''
Although Islam has permitted man, in inevitable circumstances, to rebuke his wife, in case she is guilty of open indecency and persistence in default, , it has also suggested a very wise course for it in this verse. It has suggested that first of all he should advise and preach her, and if she does not mend her ways by these means, then he should stop sleeping with her, which is a great warning for the sensible wife. If she does not improve even by this method, then he may take recourse to slight beating, but in that he must avoid her head and face. He should take recourse to beating if he thinks that it would work, otherwise it is better to avoid it. He should try to understand that she, too, has feelings and her position is like one of the two wheels of the cart of life. If at all it comes to beating her then he must keep her true status in view before taking recourse to it. He should never loose sight of her importance in conjugal life. It is the responsibility of the wife that during the absence of her husband, besides the guarding of her own chastity, and property of her husband, she should not let in anyone who is not liked by her husband, however closely related that person be to her.